oh yeah, recently i read this CS Lewis book- reflection on the psalms
and one point really struck me
it was how we shouldnt envy others just because they dont seem to face the same struggles as u
and how perhaps these struggles are beyond these people

anyways
ive reading the book of job
and i realise like how jobs friends advise wasnt wrong teologically or anything
their intent wasnt really wrong
they just gave advice-alot of it
when it wasnt really needed
tehey didnt look for the root or anything
bleagh
the thing is that instead of mourning with job, sharing in his pain
and encouraging him
they had the best ideas and intentions
and tried to force them on him
i guess im realising im alot like jobs friends
i like to give ppl advice
i like to point fingers at their lives and tell them what to do
but i dun really know how to encourage
i dun really noe how to mourn alongside them
to travail alongside them
to just be there when they need me
to make the suffering a little less and the soothing aliitle more

well to the ppl to whom ive been nothing but good adivce
i apologize
i'll try my very best to learn how to mourn alongside you next time